How The Erasure of Pamela Colman Smith Encouraged Me To Stay On My Spiritual Path When I Wanted To Give Up
Friends, I am a huge nerd! ne of my favorite hobbies is searching the “innanets” for little-known Black history facts. Likewise, I also love researching new tarot and oracle decks. And these two worlds collided when I learned that a Black woman illustrated the coveted Rider-Waite-Smith tarot deck. I first stumbled upon this fact on […]
Here’s How Putting Myself First & Being Present Helped Me “Reclaim” My Sexuality
Nine months prior to turning 28, I was living with my cousin-roommate in the Bay Area and working for a healthcare agency in a role that was slowly, but surely, draining my soul. It had been three years since I graduated from grad school and, while I was grateful for this new set of circumstances, […]
Is It a Connection…or Is It Co-Dependency? How I Learned To Foster Healthy Romantic Boundaries
So much of what we think we know about love and relationships is a blend of what we grew up seeing and hearing. Whether we want a fairytale ending or something a little less orthodox, it’s what we’ve observed that informs our wants and needs. I grew up watching my parents love each other through […]
Consent: Why We Need It & Why Asking For It Needs To Be Normalized
If this is one of the first times that you’re reading the phrase “normalize consent”, then it may sound like a foreign concept. “Normalizing” something requires that we think about it often, talk about it openly and do it every chance that we get. “Consent” requires us to consider permissions, what’s legal vs. illegal and, […]
Social Media, Sexual Content & What the “Crackdown” Is Getting Wrong, According To Black Women
Social media is cracking down on sexual content, again, leaving sex educators and sex workers out in the cold.
How To Lighten Your Load When Everything Feels Heavy
Let’s be real: dealing with politics, social distancing, income, mental health, and everything in between all at once sounds like way too much. And yet, it’s what seems to be plaguing so many of us right now. At least before all this, we could blow off some steam by spending time with family and friends. […]
The Cards Neva Lie: A Brief Introduction to Tarot Cards For The Newbie Mystic
Thinking about starting tarot, but don’t know where to start? Fear not sis, we got you!
Rebounding: It’s As Mental (& Spiritual) As It Is Physical
Relationships are some of our most prized possessions. While they aren’t necessarily “things to possess”, they bring us joy, they help us grow and they remind us of who we are. Although, ultimately, it’s the relationship that we have with ourselves that inform how we move through the world. So, even when they come to […]
Keep Your Bible: I Found My Queerness in Black Religion (Part III) Embodiment
He was younger than I expected, younger than our email correspondence had suggested. His pale skin still wore its youth. His round shoulders carried a much older weight. “Nicole, right? Come on in,” he urged after I climbed two sets of stairs and passed through marijuana plumes that smoked within the building’s stairwell. Crossing the […]
Honoring The Shadow: Healing Our Inner Child
The little girl I saw by the water ran into the sun. Her reflection traced the water near her feet; her hair and skin alive with possibility. You wouldn’t believe how long she lived in the shadows, a frail thing seemingly plucked from beneath the stairs. She looked like me. Brighter, more awake, less fearful. […]